Let’s talk Imposter Syndrome. If you’re not familiar with the term, imposter syndrome is when you doubt your abilities and feel like you don’t belong somewhere. It’s the idea that you got a job “by accident” or that you might get caught as a fraud. Psychologist Audrey Ervin says, “Imposter syndrome can apply to anyone who isn’t able to internalize and own their successes.”
This is a very popular topic and I wanted to write about my experience overcoming it. I’ve been the only woman in the classroom, the only woman in teams and in meetings. I’ve also been the only intern at internships without previous experience.
So, how did I deal with imposter syndrome?
Back in 2019, I was sitting in a meeting at my first internship and I had no idea what was being said. I did not understand what the project was, what the goal was, what my team did, what any of the technologies were and on top of that – I was the only woman in the meeting. I looked around and felt a very huge sense of unbelonging. I began to wonder if I got the internship by accident, if they meant to hire someone more qualified but made the mistake of calling me. I wondered if I chose the right career and I convinced myself that I was not as smart as any of the other interns.
Here’s the things though – that feeling is normal. That’s imposter syndrome and thankfully, I did not let it get the best of me. Here are 5 tips that helped me overcome imposter syndrome.
1. Identify It
Once you learn about imposter syndrome, it becomes easier for you to identify it and know that it is normal. Most people experience moments of doubt, you’re not alone. Those around you who have more experience can reassure you that it’s common and knowing that can make it seem less scary and less personal.
2. Own It
Own your doubts! Doubts can only be removed by action, say them out loud. After I made the decision to not let imposter syndrome get the best of me, I began carrying a notebook around with me during my internship. In that notebook, I would write the questions I had, the things I didn’t understand and I made sure I wrote down the answers to all my doubts. I’ve said this before, as an intern you are expected to ask as many questions as possible.
3. Be Honest With Yourself
Don’t try to be someone you’re not to fit in or make yourself “look qualified.” You are qualified, that’s why you’re in that position. Be honest with yourself about what you do not know or do not understand and ask about it! The great thing about clearing your doubts is that you don’t have to be pretending you know what the conversation is about because you already asked and you’re already one step ahead to full understanding.
4. Experiencing Imposter Syndrome is actually a good thing!
I attended a Imposter Syndrome Google workshop last year and the best tip I got out of it is that experiencing imposter syndrome is actually a good thing. I know, sounds weird… but they’re right! When I was sitting in that meeting thinking I didn’t belong, I should’ve acknowledged those thoughts and reframed them. Instead of thinking I didn’t belong, I should’ve been thinking how far I’d come to be surrounded by such intelligent individuals. I might not have known everything they were discussing, but I was there because I had potential. After realizing that, I began learning from everyone around me instead of feeling intimidated.
5. Be Kinder to Yourself
Sometimes, we’re so caught up on reaching a goal or wanting to learn more that we tend to forget how far we’ve come already. Take a look around and embrace where you are and how far you’ve come. It will get easier before you know it. To help show yourself that you’re doing better than you think, keep track of your wins! No matter how big or small. Every day is a new win.
XOXO,
Pao
